John Lennon famously said, “life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” I’ve always tended to think that he had a point. However, these days, life is pretty much what happens while your cell phone is charging- or on airplane mode- or broken. The latter happened to me, very far from an apple store, and it was then when I realized how addicted I truly am.
I don’t know when it was that I stopped watching the world through my own eyes before I focused on it with the lens of my phone. I can’t remember when I became more interested in capturing the moments, than living them.
The world has become paperless- but as a trade-off, it’s become somewhat faceless. My network grows daily- and between all my social media platforms, I have amassed innumerable “contacts”- but I’m beginning to ask myself, how many FRIENDS have I truly made?
This isn’t a new thought- this is the way modern society functions. For the most part.
Today, my daughter asked me about baby dolphins and instead of taking out a book, or singing Baby Beluga (as my own mother would have done), or describing the great blue sea and all its creatures- I pulled out my phone, googled “baby dolphins” and let her scroll through photos.
And now I am asking myself, is that really the kind of mother I want to be?
My friend, a talented photographer, took this photo of me me👆🏻a few weeks ago. It was a beautiful afternoon in Rome- the light was magic, we were free to talk about whatever our hearts desired. We could have been doing anything- but what was I doing? Checking my phone. And what do I mindlessly do hundreds of times a day? Check my phone.
This isn’t a criticism of myself. Nor is it a resolution to stop. But it’s something that I’m becoming aware of. Something that I need to work on. Something that I have been thinking about for a while now. Yes, our smartphones have become extensions of our arms, our lives are defined in hashtags, and our friendships are formed online ...FOR THE MOST PART. Right now, I’d like to focus on the LEAST PART. And see where that gets me.
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I suppose that’s a good place to start, right?
Patience with ourselves.
And maybe one day, change.